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Love, Intimacy And The Ideal Marriage

Question: I would love to hear your idea of love, intimacy and the ideal marriage.

Abraham: Love is an interesting vibration.

When we feel the vibrations of the humans that we are acknowledging, the vibration of appreciation and the vibration of love are identical vibrations.

But when we commonly hear a human expressing the word love, they are usually nowhere near that vibration.

Because when most humans pick up the stick called love, they are vibrating on the end where there's not enough of it, because most humans when they are approaching the idea of love, are thinking about the love that is being funneled to them by others, rather than the love that they are expressing through their appreciation of others.

The purest form of love is the one that any perceiver projects in their choosing the vibration of appreciation as they hold something else as their object of attention.

So, what we would say about love, the most important thing we would say about that is, rather than running around and wanting someone to love you, if you would instead, try to find something to love when you are loving, then you are in the vibration that allows the full vibration of your source energy, who adores you, to flow to you.

In other words, the feeling of love is being in vibrational harmony with your source. That is the highest vibration that we know. So if you are criticizing someone, then you are holding yourself in a vibration where you then cannot be the recipient of the love that your inner being is always offering to you.

And that 's why to find something, anything to love, even a kitten, anytime you are in the mode of appreciation, your vibration is then allowing the full love that you deserve to flow to you and through you.

Intimacy is an interesting thing because what we notice is most physical beings identify intimacy with the human touch.

In other words, it has to do with the interpretation of vibration through the organ of the skin.

And what we feel about intimacy is that you are far more communicating through your vibration than you are through your words or through your actions.

And so the greatest intimacy is in that vibrational alignment.

Esther has discovered through her interaction with Abraham that when she is in vibrational harmony and allowing Abraham to flow through her there is more aliveness, more sensuality, more, and by sensuality we mean all senses are more highly activated.

What she sees is more beautiful, what she hears is more thrilling, what she tastes is more delicious, what she smells is more intoxicating, what she feels is more sensual, in other words, all senses are heightened through that connection to core energy.

Someone said recently, Abraham never gets off the stage and shakes hands with anyone, or embraces anyone, or holds anyone, or touches anyone. And Ester said there is an intimacy beyond anything that I have ever felt that is taking place on an energy level. She said it is sort of like having a hug from the inside out.

Have you ever had an experience, a sexual experience, or an intimate experience with another physical being where you felt very little, in fact it almost felt annoying to you as compared to those experiences where you just cannot get enough of it. You feel like you are wanting to move inside of each other eternally and what that is all about is your vibrational harmony, in other words, if you take the time to come into vibrational harmony with your source before you come into physical contact with any other, then the experience for each is an intimacy beyond anything that you have ever known. But if you are in your place of disconnection as you come together, then it is something else all together.

That's why so many are understanding that they are wanting love, what they call love in intimacy, and we would rephrase that to say when you have connection combined with intimacy, there is no greater satisfaction in all the Universe.

One of the things that we notice there is an author in your time that has written a book some time ago called "Think and Grow Rich". And he was talking about vibration, while he was not expressing it with the preciseness that Ester is here. And he had a chapter in his book called, "Sexual Transmutation". And it was the part that when Jerry taught the course, he always left out because it was always a little embarrassing to get into that place with other humans that he did not know.

And we explained that the reason that he was writing about sexual transmutation is what his point was, is that when you have a desire as compelling as this sensual, sexual desire that is born within you, then you understand what true passion is. True desire flows like that. And there are few topics in your physical environment where you understand that compulsion as powerfully as when it relates to your sexuality. Sexuality or sensuality, while in combination with connection to source energy is Divine and anything else is far less.

For our perspective, an ideal marriage would be one where two beings, before they came together, we'll qualify that in just a moment, because that's going to leave most everybody out. But you asked for ideal so we'll speak it, where two people, before they came together have individually come to understand the value of selfishness to the degree that they are willing to reach for the thought, word or action that connects them, first and foremost, to core energy, so that each partner is giving the whole of themselves to the other.

In other words, not just the physical, disconnected part, but the part that is the extension of the source energy. So two people, who come together who are fully connected, that then join together, not on all topics, but on some topics where they are collectively co-creating, there is nothing more delicious than two beings coming together in their full expansive connection and joining together in ideas of creating together. It is the ultimate co-creative experience.

Now we said we'd qualify that a little bit. Any two people who come together, whether they were connected to source energy when they came together or not, still have the opportunity to get connected to source energy. And so, of course, if two are consciously, deliberately connecting and then having the relationship, that is the ideal experience, but if you can't convince your mate about what you know it's not so serious, because one who connects to source energy can find balance with anyone else.

Ideal is two connected, who know they're connected, who know how they're connected, who know why they're not connected, who know how to get back into connection to source energy anytime they want.

The ideal marriage is one where each individual takes full responsibility for the way he or she feels, in other words, where they are no longer using the others behavior as their excuse for not being connected.

It is what true unconditional love is. It is where you are saying, your marriage vows would go something like, hey, I take full responsibility for the way I feel. And I will never hold you responsible. No action that you ever offer will be my excuse for not feeling good.

This Abraham-Hicks copyrighted material is used with permission and our Appreciation. Esther Hicks is an inspirational speaker who dialogs with a group of spiritual teachers who call themselves "Abraham". A large and growing number of people have become ardent "students" of the information and inspiration of Abraham-Hicks, and many credit their life-changing success to what they've learned from the books, tapes, CDs and attending live workshops.
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