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Raising A Glass To Napoleon Hill


October 26, 1883 – November 8, 1970

One of my life’s favorite heroes and mentors, Mr. Hill left us when I was 8. He remains as one of my best models for what it means to leave a legacy behind, one that has saved this butt’s bacon on more than one occasion over the last 2 decades, especially so over the last 10 years as I committed to complete responsibility for my personal development.

Thank You for your continued guidance Mr. Hill!! May our paths cross again! Cheers!

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An Invitation To Meet My Self

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“This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the blue pill – the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill – you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes.”
– Morpheus

August 2014: R.I.P. Ramon Orlando
May you encounter many blessings along your Universal journey and thank you for greeting me as I stepped onto this most unusual and spiritual path, see you out there!

I ask you Reader to keep an open mind as you digest this account. Pay heed to the fact that you are reading this, it is a clue that there is something here for you. I cannot recommend this experience, I can only share what I have learned and know that those ready will be called to it, for to partake is the greatest gift you will give to yourself and ultimately all of us collectively. If not for you, at least know enough to pay forward the opportunity to others that may be silently and desperately longing for a hand up. There are resources following this, my longest post ever, for your exploration.
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Free Your Mind And Your A$$’ll Follow…

About 3 years ago, while sitting in my home office I had a defining moment that was a significant catalyst for change. As I sat pondering what I needed to do or become next to get to the things I desired most for me and mine, I heard that little voice from within ask the question,

“What would your world look like if the Internet was gone tomorrow?”

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Lessons Learned In The Mail Room With The Mailman…

And it’s not what you think, for shame! Although it was good for me…otherwise I wouldn’t be blogging about it here…ahhhh…care for a puff? (Only some of you will get that last quip.)

The phone rang from the front door a few moments ago, and I got caught in the zone of production workin’ in my housecoat, doh. The man announced that he had 2 registered letters for me to sign for and I had 10 minutes to get down to the mailroom to receive them. (The mail contractors don’t have it in their job description to deliver to the individual’s door in a multi-unit building ya’ know?) I actually asked him if I could get it tomorrow,


My knee-jerk thought: “Well! What kind of customer service is that?”

“Well alright then, I’ll be right down.”

The offence was quickly forgotten in the moment and I immediately got excited because I knew what he had for me! I ran upstairs, threw some clothes on, grabbed the garbage, the recycling, my keys and bopped down to the mail room to pick up my prizes – stopped at the garbage chute on the way of course and yes, almost dropped my keys in!!

When I arrived the mailman was sorting a big stack of letters into some boxes so I said, “Be right back, I’ll drop this recycling in the bin outside while you do that.” “Great” he said.

I returned from the short walk in the gorgeous sun and prepared to wait, and he was ready for me in the mailroom…I thought to myself, “Wow, he’s efficient”!

I eagerly beheld the envelopes with the big red and white stickers on them as he picked them up to hand them to me. I reached out my hand to accept them and suddenly, he pulled them back from me and said,

“Question.” In the moment it was more of a command than a question and he was holding my stuff hostage, he wanted an answer!

It kind of knocked me out of my glory for a second and I replied with a smile as he was very non-threatening and genuinely curious, and asked my own question, “Yes?”

He held up the letter which was addressed from Me to the “care of” Me and pointed at the return address on it and asked,

“I’m curious.”

My thought: “No kiddin’?”

“How come you’re sending a letter from yourself to yourself?”

I replied and asked, “In these envelopes are my winning lottery tickets, they are “intellectual property” for sale or for development, by Me or another. Have you heard of “copyrighting”?”


“Well, you have noticed the words the letter is addressed to, and underneath C/O me?”


“I just copyrighted THAT phrase. No one else has thought of it before. Not only that, I own the Internet address or the domain, and I have an idea for a concept, I’ll put that little copyright symbol beside the phrase when I publish anything on the web with it. I will develop that into something with the help of a team or sell it to another that wants to do something of value with it.”


“Isn’t it though?”

“You mean that’s all there is to it?”

“Yep. Most don’t know how easy it is to claim “rights” to their own “intellectual property”, that is the original ideas, inspirations and inventions of your mind that can be used to do something good and something big with.”

“Huh.” (And he actually scratched his head! It was so cute!)

Then and there I left him thinking because there was now a line-up for pick up at the mail room, I thanked him and said see you next time! As I walked away I could see his wheels spinning, this wasn’t the first batch of envelopes he had delivered to me, so he remembered me from before.

I was joined for the trek (in this building it is truly a trek) back, by the last person in line behind me who had been even more inconvenienced than I by the call to accept her books. She had just gotten off work an hour ago and was prepared to go to sleep for a while…I was excited that she got new books, and she was too…she just needed sleep…

I love people! I am observing them differently lately and having so much fun!

My new project is to “play with resistance” and see what shows up, ask more and different questions of others, notice how others “ask”. The exercise so far has had extreme value in it.

The power and value of “original thought” has been skillfully demonstrated to me lately. I have come to realize some of those dreams and innovations locked up in my head, and those heads of others are the stuff of “origin”. I am not sure if others have thought of my ideas before, and I do know, no one has acted upon them if they were first. It seems like me, many others tend to think another has “already done that”, in few cases they have. I have acted on a couple of “strong promptings” which have resulted in registered letters back to myself!

I am excited to be able to create some things anew, to define new terms out of re-purposing old materials – working with what we already have , to add value in new and thoughtful ways.

Have you ever had a brilliant idea out of nowhere? Or thought of something really cool only to have someone else show up with it? Doesn’t it make you wonder how 2 people at opposite ends of the earth from totally diverse situations can have the exact same great idea? I say it’s necessary to guarantee the existence of the idea, few if anyone actually acts on their promptings.

Next time you have a stroke of brilliance, write it down, take the next action step to claiming it as your own, if you don’t know what to do next, don’t worry about it, just start looking for those that can help you with that!

The important thing is that you act upon your ideas, others with like mind and more resources will be along to assist you with whatever comes next if YOU take the first step, you have to, it’s YOURS.

You’re probably not alone with your inspiration, and it’s up to you to take the lead with it, find the others that share your vision. I can guarantee you, your ideas have a financial value to them, it pays very, very well, and in fact, if you set things up “right”, your ideas will continue to pay your grandchildren and contribute to others long after you’re gone!

“Those that think govern those that labor.” – Marshall Sylver

The mailman and I will be connecting again I’m sure, I like his attitude and confidence and his curiosity – tells me he’s “open”. He’s a bold and friendly sort – or in this case “sorter” – and brings me my mailbox money from other ventures too, of course I’m always glad to see him! He always brings good stuff!

Lovin’ my life and the ease with which it is unfolding…

Have you offered another your “value” today?

Jeff Foxworthy on what it is to be a Canuck.

You may live in Canada…

If your local Dairy Queen is closed from
September through May,

If someone in a Home Depot store offers you assistance
and they don’t work there,

If you’ve worn shorts and a parka at the same time,

If you’ve had a lengthy telephone conversation
with someone who dialed a wrong number,

If ‘Vacation’ means going anywhere
South of Detroit for the weekend,

If you measure distance in hours,

If you know several people
who have hit a deer more than once,

If you have switched from ‘heat’ to ‘A/C’
in the same day and back again,

If you can drive 90 km/hr through 2 feet of snow
during a raging blizzard without flinching,

If you install security lights on your house and garage,
but leave both unlocked,

If you carry jumper cables in your car
and your wife knows how to use them,

If you design your kid’s Halloween costume
to fit over a snowsuit,

If the speed limit on the highway is 80 km —
you’re going 90 and everybody is passing you,

If driving is better in the winter
because the potholes are filled with snow,

If you know all 4 seasons:
Almost winter, winter, still winter,
and road construction,

If you have more miles On your snow blower
than your car,

If you find 2 degrees ‘a little chilly’.

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Use The Power Of Online Social Media To Shine Your Light And Point The Way…

You don’t have to look far or listen too long before you see or hear something about “Web 2.0”, a newly evolved version of the Internet experience that includes the massive power of things like “Social Networking” and “Social Media Sites”. You know them as Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn or YouTube.

As a pioneer and surfer on the leading edge of technology and “online collaboration”, and an expert in “long-distance” relationships and team-building, I don’t really see “Social Networking” as anything new, in fact I consider “socializing” a lost art – long gone lost.

No matter what instrument one uses to get their thoughts and feelings across, they have to be willing to share them first and listen to those of others – first we sow, then we reap.

I am often complimented on my “writing skills”. From my side of that – and thank you – the ability to put my thoughts and feelings here on this web page is not because I’m a writer, it’s because I don’t particularly give a rip what people think about what I think, say or write…(wasn’t always so) and well that’s not entirely true, I care what SOME people think…and I am continually letting go of the “need to please everyone” mentality.

Doing anything to please another is a trap in itself, let alone trying to please them ALL, it’ll never happen and it’ll drive anyone to some form of private debauchery for trying!

I have learned how to tell a story, and I call this story-telling over the net, “talking in type”…proper spelling, grammar or punctuation is optional and, if you’re a texter, as you know – not recommended! I feel free to invent new words along the way if it helps to get a concept across or meld together ideas and we now have video and audio for those that aren’t comfy with their “thoughts-to-words” assembling skills.

I believe what we are seeing manifest here and now is another go-round of the “Mom & Pop” days, this time on a global level, with exponentially more leverage for each individual involved. Some newly coined words for this phenomenon as it is unfolding are popping up to define the direction we are headed, “brandividuality” or “brandividualism” are recent additions to the new dictionary.

Your Name” is what you are building the credibility of, not the companies, partnerships and products that are part of your business or financial portfolio. There is only One “You” – that “individualism” you bring to the global marketplace is what’s irreplaceable and in-doable by any other individual in the Universe!

If you are good at offering value, anything behind you is good and others will want to know what you’ve got, what works for you will likely work for them too. 

The more value I bring to my marketplace, the more I know I will be rewarded in kind and beyond, my spreadsheet shows me that I’m beginning to understand the concept, the understanding shows up in real numbers called “positive results”, which equates to real dollars in my bank accounts.

Perhaps those too familiar with you or that have “history” with you are tired of hearing about or from you for one reason or another? Maybe you came from a place you want to forget about, start fresh and create a new environment or a new You altogether?

I’ll guarantee you there are an unlimited number of people just waiting to hear your stories, what you learned from your failures, they’ll cheer you on and help you to celebrate your successes, if you share them.

Share that which inspires you in your moments of inspiration and your voice will carry farther than you can imagine and land exactly where it needs to be heard. Your voice matters and you will be heard if you just show up and give a shout out!

I have an associate that calls herself, “The 10 Years Too Late Girl”, although “late” is, most definitely better than never with persistence, by comparison to my friend’s story, I then have to call myself, “The 10 Years Too Early Girl”. It seems I’ve been waiting for at least that long for my vision to come together and manifest into my physical reality, for others to “get it”, interesting thing is, 10 years later, my unique offering is still needed, my niche still exists! As much as I come and go, my “calling” remains the same.

I bill myself as an “Ambassador For Connection”. I notice the “connecting” part of the equation is still missing for a lot of people, I see them walking, I hear them talking, and still they stand alone and afraid to trust or move forward…

I have 100’s if not 1000’s of people in my organization that say, “I have run out of people to talk to”, the ones that are left on their list, they have reconsidered working with – and usually I cannot blame them! They want out of that existing circle, into something entirely new and are generally both the army and the General of their one-man army in the beginning of their venture. They lack the time and energy to “push ropes” and the financial resources to go out and meet a whole different crowd or even 1 or 2 good friends –

…relationships, no matter how you do them, take time and most importantly personal focus and energy, relationships are the true overhead of any of life’s endeavors. Nothing manifests in my world unless another shares my vision, I have accomplished nothing strictly “on my own”.

All I need to ask a person is “Are you on Facebook yet?” and I can instantly tell by their body language and response what they know about it, few know much – they are where I was 10 years ago, I am called to fill a need, to inspire others to dip their toes in the proverbial waters…

More than once I have been in high-powered marketing seminars and snicker when a speaker makes reference to “the greatest marketing plan ever launched” – in reference to the marketing behind “The Secret”. I snicker because I was in on that master plan from the beginning, and there really wasn’t one! The power of that “little film” was driven by a small handful of people with unstoppable passion and belief in something they absolutely knew worked and would make a difference on a massive scale! Tip the scale it did.

Those of us in charge of getting the word out about this new program all had a talent for “natural promotion”, for putting our excitement “out there”, we had big mouths, worked diligently and had a whole lot of fun along the way! We knew what we wanted “The Secret” to do (before it was even called that) and it did it! We gathered together 1000’s of people online months before there was ever a finished product…we did that on total faith, I invested at least 2 years sweat, energy and real dollars into that project once the dust all settled from it. I recall many times looking up and asking that this project please be a success…it was one of my life’s greatest learning experiences in business.

If a small handful of people can gather the attention and focus of 10’s of 1000’s of others from around the world over a few months, how many can you gather with your enthusiasm and appreciation for life over 1 to 2 years?

If you follow the stories of the successful it is easy to see that their successes were had because of a relationship with another. 1 or 2 great connections can change the course of life and business.

People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.

Get out there and start spreading your valuable insights, ideas, visions and dreams, you’ll be surprised at who shows up to join you for the ride!

Here’s some statistics that should make you sit up a little straighter!

  • Facebook has 200 million members and climbing.
  • YouTube visitors are viewing 13 billion videos a month.
  • LinkedIn has over 15 million businesspeople networking.
  • Twitter is growing at over 40% a month.
  • Digg and Delicious are driving millions of visitors to websites every month.
  • GoogleWave is on the way – it’ll likely capture the best features of the above list!

As an aside note, I noticed just the other day that the first ever Instant Message system I used extensively over a decade ago has almost 1 BILLION ID numbers registered if not more – that would be the legendary “ICQ”, short for “I Seek You”, for it’s time it was brilliant and changed the face of the Internet forever. I’ll never forget the space I was in the first night I fired up “ICQ”, it was one of those moments in life that fueled a vision I continue to chase today, in fact here I am a decade later and as quickly as some things change, other things just don’t change at all, it seems my unique offering is still in high demand…

As I type this, I hear an old friend’s voice in my head, she used to shout to her lingering little ones,

“hey kids get outta’ the house for a while and blow the stink off!”

Go find a couple of new friends that think like you do and dream like you do! These relationships might start on Facebook or Twitter or any of the other nooks or crannies where people hang out on the net, and I’ll guarantee you eventually you’ll be in each other’s arms if it’s a connection that’s meant to be…and who knows what wonderful things you will create for us all together!

I Am an Ambassador For Connection, I facilitate in the connection, awareness and transformation of those ready to take on the journey…and because of that there is always enough money to live the life I choose, to enjoy myself, contribute and invest!