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Do You KNOW Unconditional Happiness?

It’s been 10 years since I read John Gray’s classic book
Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.
Reading that book was – as usual – perfect timing for where I was at at the time!

While listening to John Gray speak at Seminar of the Century a couple of weeks back, I was quickly reminded of how much I love his stuff and why! I was also presented with lots of “emotional memories” of a time when my whole world was shook.

John Gray was an energetic, entertaining and engaging speaker! He presented us with some new and cool information and solutions.

At the seminar he gave out 500 copies of his book to the first at the table, today I checked out Amazon, one can get a copy for 19 cents. Don’t let the pricing affect your perception of value, it seems that John Gray wants to give this one out! It’s too important not to!! 🙂

The Mars & Venus Diet & Exercise Solution
Create the Brain Chemistry of Health,
Happiness, and Lasting Romance

Funny thing…it’s been on my bookshelf for 6 months. That’s where it landed when it arrived with my Isagenix startup kit. Although I loved John Gray’s previous work, this one said “Diet & Exercise” on it so I filed it for later…it wasn’t calling to me at the time. I figure if I had noticed the sub-title of the book I might have been more motivated to read it, and the 2 words that triggered me are most prominent!!

So as I sat “gloating” over the fact that I already had a copy of the book, I was also aware of the fact that I hadn’t really noticed it yet. It is now off the shelf and on the reading table! I bet that with everything I’ve got going on now that it has to be one of the most perfect books for me!

So far I have been applauding all the way and am inspired to share a small excerpt that blew me awaywhen I read it…

I don’t think anyone I’ve read or listened to so far has so eloquently described the state of “unconditional happiness”, it is encouraging to me to know that I recognize it – this description IS what I live and what I want for others to KNOW!

Excerpt from The Mars & Venus Diet & Exercise Solution pg 29:


Unconditional happiness means you smile for no reason at all, execept for being alive. Certainly, life has its ups and downs, but through it all you are happy. This happiness is not an abstract concept but a tangible feeling that pervades your life with such emotions as enthusiasm, excitement, joy, and pleasure. Put simply: Even little things make you happy, and big problems don’t knock you over. At difficult and challenging times, when things upset you, you are quickly able to come back to a warm feeling of gratitude for the good things in your life. In the bigger context of all the good in your life, the negative no longer has a grip on your mood.

Unconditional happiness doesn’t mean that you are not dependent on circumstance to make you happy. Whatever the circumstances, good or bad, you are rooted in your ability to see the whole picture. You don’t drop into a depressed state by focusing on the negative and forgetting all the good in your life. Whenever someone is unhappy or depressed, that person has temporarily forgotten the good things about his or her situation.

In the zone of unconditional happiness, you may feel sad or disappointed after a loss, but not unhappy. You may feel angry and frustrated when you don’t like what has happened, but not unloving. You may feel afraid in the face of loss or danger, but you are still in touch with your inner confidence. To be courageous does not mean you have no fear. It means you act in spite of your fears.

All imbalanced mental states – worry, hate, anxiety, depression, for example – result from focusing on the negative in life to the exclusion of the positive. These states of imbalance can now be measured by brain SPECT imaging, which gives a picture of the imbalance of activity in the brain. Different parts of your brain become overactive or under active. With balanced brain chemistry you are able to see the whole picture and avoid focusing on the negative.

No matter how bad things get, there are still many things to be grateful for. If you are in balance and things upset you, you quickly regain your balance by feeling the positive feelings as well.

Experiencing unconditional happiness is like lying in a warm bathtub and enjoying the waves of pleasure that come from moving in the water or feeling the water move over you. Some things make you more or less happy, but you are always connected to your essential nature, which is to be happy. When the water is still, you may even forget that it is warm, but once there is movement you feel it again. Likewise, you may forget you are happy, but all it takes is doing something enjoyable and a wave of happiness fills your being with joy and gratitude.

10 years ago when I read “Men Are From Mars…, I was at the apex of a somewhat emotionally messy separation from a partner that – to this date – co-created a situation that has been a catalyst for some of the most important lessons thus far in my life. My partner read the book straight after I finished it and what could have been disaster was largely relieved. Since that time I have held John Gray (and the Universe) responsible for my psychic and personal safety overall.

I stand in pure appreciation for the experience, without it, I wouldn’t be typing this to you now I suspect! 🙂

A little understanding goes a very long way, in hindsight, the situation at the time was a clear example of how one little shift in understanding can create a HUGE and positive end result!

I’m off to read the rest of the book now… 😉

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